Does that label fit you? It seems to fit alot of women I see. I get to chat sex with every woman I see in my clinic…it amazes me that most seem to have no libido. I did once see a woman who could have orgasms walking to the mail box…wish that was me, but sadly for most of us it is not the norm.
So it is said that “libido is 90% mental”…that would mean that only 10% can be blamed on hormonal imbalance. I agree with this to a certain extent. I try to maximize a gals hormones to make her horny as her husband would like but it is often the last thing to improve (if at all)….sorry to deliver the news. I do measure testosterone and DHEA levels to make sure they are OPTIMAL and do supplementation as needed. Hormones can help but often there is more to the lagging need to get naked.
If your issue is that you can’t have orgasm then the testosterone will help you (especially when used clitorally! Yeah!). If your issue is dry vaginal tissue, then estrogen will help you (see the dry vagina post). If your issue is low energy and lack of desire then we might have to work on other things to get you perky again.
I think that boredom and low energy are the main reasons for low libido. When you have been married for 10+ years, it becomes all to usual…same old, same old routine. Doesn’t sound exciting does it? Well, if you spice it up a bit with toys, new things to try, fantasies, etc…I am sure it can be more exciting but then the low energy holds us back.
I have known a number of women whose husbands divorced them because of a poor sex life. I wonder how many husbands cheat on their wives because of the need for more frequent sex? I do understand that women can be the cheaters and that men can have low libido too but it is much more common the other way.
All I am saying is this…do everything you can to maximize your hormone balance and good health…it will help your sex life no matter what age or sex you are. I heard a physician say that sex 2-3 times per week increase our longevity by 7 years! So do what you need to spice it up out there!
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